The Issue with Hookup Culture

One study showed that for every 1,000 married women, there were 14.56 divorces in America in 2022. Most people think that the leading issue is money. It turns out that the #1 cause is the lack of commitment. Meaning infidelity and relationships outside of marriage which covered 75%. It never occurred to me how much hookup culture had actually affected the U.S. until I started college. My partner and I started dating a few months after we turned 18. We will be 20 in a few weeks, and we've been going strong. So, my mind was blown when I heard and saw people, even older than I am, were having a hard time finding people who were thinking about marriage. I mean my main fear about my love life was not having children at a good age, but it was never that I wouldn't find anyone.

In addition, when I was in high school, of course I saw people bounce from person to person, but the majority of Juniors and Seniors were occupied, if you know what I mean. I've seen more commitment in a couple of high schoolers compared to people in their 20s. I mean what is the stigma behind being 'tied down.' I never saw it as a bad thing. So, in my 'broad' ways of living, I looked to a YouTube Channel. These people were the very epitome of not wanting to be tied down. And when I heard them speak, I was behooved by their thoughts of marriage. "Well, if it's most likely going to end in divorce, then why commit?""I don't change for anyone; they should love me the way I am." Is it the fear of change, or the fear of facing that we are a less than perfect people? In my relationship, if I ever had to change something, it was because it was hurting me and my partner, and my partner handled it in the most loving way possible. So, it seems that there is a bit of pride masquerading around as not wanting to change who they are for someone else.

Furthermore, I hear this idea of not wanting to be tied down. A philosophy that says the world is your oyster. But the world is actually the women and men society lusts after, and the oyster is your free will to do whatever you want with them. Which lead me to this particular point. The world is obsessed with sex in 2 different ways. There are the people who love it and will hand themselves over to the highest bidder. And then there are those who are obsessed with being scared of it. Either way, it's on both types of minds. Sex has become the very point that the world will turn for and it's quite scary. It blurs the line between those who were taken advantage of and are now doing it against their will, and those who just willingly give themselves away. Is it the pride that masks it as something good? I mean plenty of women and men make money from it and call it empowering. But this is the very thing that leads to divorce. Porn addictions, cheating, having eyes for other people. THIS is the leading cause. So how empowering can it be? How empowering is it when this is what is being normalized? If we continue on like this, with this lack of commitment, we might as well sign ourselves up for extinction in the U.S. Now you might say, well no that's not true Isabella, people still get pregnant. Let me stop you right there. People get pregnant, but what do they do if they don't want it? "Planned Parenthood here I come!" Again, there is that lack of commitment. If people don't even want marriage, is it reasonable to expect that they would want kids? I think not.

You might be thinking, well what does this have to do with? So what if people want to cheat and live their lives? Let me tell you one thing. Have you ever watched The Walking Dead? It'll be like that but instead we should call it The Walking Cheaters. They lurk around every corner looking for their next victim. The world left destitute. Children without fathers and mothers because they have been taken by The Walking Cheaters into their dominion of ruin and moral irresponsibility. Their minds and brains dead, because they have been infiltrated by the propaganda of the uncontrollably aroused. If you call that empowering, then we have another problem we need to discuss.